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Relationship tips: Communication can be silent, just notice it

Communication in relationships isn't always spoken. This is my husband on our honeymoon, non-verbally telling me to put the lens cap back on the camera.
Communication in relationships isn’t always spoken. This is my husband on our honeymoon, non-verbally telling me to put the lens cap back on the camera.

There was a moment right after our third daughter was born that I will never forget. Knowing everything I know now, it was a comedy. In the moment, it was one of the sweetest things I had experienced.

While I don’t often dole out relationship tips, this is one I actually do want to share. Communication can be silent, you just have to recognize it.

As I’ve written before, my third daughter was born in somewhat of a whirlwind. In less than 2 hours, I went from broken water to having a baby, delivered by a doctor I had never met, with a non-working epidural. She came a bit early so shortly before she was born, we got a few special instructions about how she wouldn’t be able to stay with us for more than a few minutes and how she might need intervention to help her breath eat or to treat infections.

There was a lot of people in the room. It wasn’t the 3-4 that were there for the birth of my other children. Instead, there were more than 10 people present as she arrived into this world. She was cleaned up on my belly, but then she was taken to the warmer on the other side of the room. My husband went with her to take pictures and relay her information to me.

As I sat in the hospital bed confined by the tubes and IVs, I looked over at my husband. He’s been emotional during each birth and this was no different.

We've share a lot of non-verbal conversations. This one was at our wedding. While it may look like he is say, "you look nice" he is really saying, "are you as hungry as I am?" See? Only we can understand our own language.
We’ve share a lot of non-verbal conversations. This one was at our wedding. While it may look like he is say, “you look nice” he is really saying, “are you as hungry as I am?” See? Only we can understand our own language.

The room was busy. The doctors and nurses were doing their jobs. A new baby, confused about what the heck was going on, was screaming her head off. And there, in the midst of them, I caught my husbands eye. It was just him and I. The world had stopped. I looked at him as a tear flowed down his cheek. Saying nothing, I pouted my lips at him. Then he smiled.

It was code. A secret language. Spoken in a tongue only the two of us could understand. He wasn’t saying he was sad or scared. He was just overcome by all of the emotion of that day and the birth of his new, sweet daughter.

Yeah, all of that came from that silent exchange. You didn’t get that?

This wasn’t the first time we have communicated in nothing but facial expressions. It wasn’t the first time that one side-ways glance provided me with a wealth of information that no one else would understand.

I see it when I watch our wedding video, too. I remember the silent conversations of that day. I remember it when his grandpa died and then when my grandpa died. When our babies were baptized. When our siblings got married. When vacation was ending and we had to go back to reality. When we started new jobs. When we were sick and going in for surgery.

We still do it. It doesn’t take a life changing event. We tell long tales through looks across the dinner table. We share secrets through glances and smiles while the kids play. We can relay an entire story through facial expressions.

I’m sure you do it too. Maybe it isn’t your husband. Maybe it’s your mom, your best friend or your child. The ability to know someone so well that a look into their eyes is a glance into their soul. You feel it. You know it.

So, who is that person for you? What secrets do you share? What stories do you tell?

 

Lime Chicken Fajita recipe brings flavor to lunch

This recipe for lime chicken fajitas was easy to make and full of flavor to help me incorporate more protein into my lunch.
This recipe for lime chicken fajitas was easy to make and full of flavor to help me incorporate more protein into my lunch.

I’ve been looking for ways to incorporate more protein into my diet throughout the day, not just at dinner. I’m really great at having meat with dinner but the other meals, especially lunch, are my downfall. I need the protein to give me the energy to get through the day. When I came across this lime chicken fajitas recipe, I decided to whip up some for lunch one day and then save the leftovers for the rest of the week. I’m surprised there were actually any leftovers–it was so yummy!

My husband hates most Mexican food. Well, he likes Taco Bell. That’s probably about as Mexican as the taco or fajitas that we make at home. I, on the other hand, LOVE Mexican food. One of my favorites is fajitas. I don’t have them often. My husband’s dislike for them means it’s not something I make for dinner.

This recipe looked great and allowed me to get in the chicken and the veggies. I thawed some chicken and decided to make it on a day I worked from home.

Here is the recipe.


 

This comes from Cafe Delights! I have adapted it slightly to the ingredients I had on hand and my taste preferences.

Marinade/Dressing:
  • 3 tablespoons olive oil
  • 100ml (just over ⅓ cup)  lime juice
  • 2 tablespoons coriander
  • 2 cloves garlic, crushed
  • 1 teaspoon brown sugar
  • ¾ teaspoon red pepper flakes
  • ½ teaspoon ground cumin
  • 1 teaspoon salt
Salad:
  • 4 chicken thigh fillets, skin removed
  • ½ red bell pepper, deseeded and sliced
  • ½ an onion, sliced
  • 5 cups lettuce, washed and dried
  • Extra coriander leaves to garnish
  • Sour cream (optional) to serve
  • Shredded cheese
INSTRUCTIONS
  1. Whisk marinade ingredients together to combine. Pour half the marinade into a shallow dish to marinade the chicken fillets for two hours if time allows. Refrigerate the reserved untouched marinade to use as a dressing.
  2. Heat about one teaspoon of oil in a grill pan or skillet over medium-high heat and add strips of cut chicken. Once chicken is cooked, set aside and allow to rest.
  3. Wipe pan over with paper towel; drizzle with another teaspoon of oil and grill/fry pepper and onion strips until cooked to your liking.
  4. Prepare salad with leaves, pepper and onion strips and chicken. Add small amount of shredded cheese and sour cream.

As I was cooking this, my husband was remarking that it smelled really great. And it did. The lime isn’t something that we cook with often and the citrus-y aroma was so delightful. It was so full of flavor too. 

This was one of the times that I really missed my grill pan. We had to pitch it several months ago because the non-stick coating was starting to come off. I need a stainless steel grill pan! The veggies could have been a little more char grilled, but it was still totally awesome!